Love is the Answer

Continuing on the theme of Love:

Hands Cupped around a Lit Candles

Hands Cupped around a Lit Candles

Love is patient and kind. Love knows neither envy nor jealousy. Love is not forward and self-assertive, nor boastful and conceited.  St Paul,  1st Corinthians 13:4

Whenever envy or jealousy show up in our consciousness it is good to be aware of what is going on within ourselves. Frequently when spiritually oriented people have these feelings, they feel embarrassed or ashamed and want to quickly pass them by. This might be a good way of dealing with them sometimes, but it might also be an opportunity to see what is behind such feelings and to heal the issue at the source within our consciousness.

We might find it very helpful to dialogue with our envy and see why it has come up in this particular context in our lives. Does it connect to some childhood feeling of being left out, not seen, not being thanked so that we envy someone else when they are included, recognized, appreciated?  Can we then give ourselves some appreciation and recognition? Can we open to God recognizing and appreciating us? Is it possible a situation where we feel jealous is actually triggering a feeling from childhood of not being loved, not feeling connected? Again, can we now give ourselves that love? Can we remain connected to ourselves as we feel this old pain in our hearts? If we turn away we are likely repeating the original experience of abandonment, this time by ourselves.

About spirittherapist

The integration of spiritual and psychological work. Robert B. Cornell Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT) Robert has been practicing marriage & family therapy for 14 years. He is experienced in the areas of depression, anxiety, spiritual direction, vocational counseling, and recovery work. He enjoys working with individuals, adults, and young adults. His work incorporates cognitive-behavioral, acceptance & commitment, depth psychology, humanistic-existential, and psychodynamic therapies. Robert is in the process of publishing a book on psycho-spiritual growth entitled, “Fifty Ways of Letting Go”.
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